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  She came from a New York where the pre-eminent family was the Astors, whose fortunes had been founded three generations earlier by John Jacob Astor, who began by trading in furs. By the time Caroline Schermerhorn Astor (‘the Mrs Astor’, as she was always known), from an ‘old New York’ family, had married John Jacob’s grandson William Backhouse Astor Jnr, and begun to reign over New York society, the Astors were primarily property-owners and landlords, their immense wealth transmuted into ‘old money’ by the passage of time. Carrie, Caroline’s youngest daughter, later married Orme Wilson, thus raising him to Astor heights.

  Helping to keep Caroline on her throne, and laying down the rules that governed her kingdom, was Ward McAllister, self-created social arbiter.

  Caroline Astor’s brother-in-law, her husband’s older brother John Jacob Astor III, had one son, William Waldorf Astor who, because he was descended from the senior branch of the family, believed that his wife Mamie should be the reigning queen. Finally, after years of unsuccessful and increasingly bitter struggle with his aunt Caroline to achieve this, he gave up and left for England, where he became a British citizen and was later raised to the peerage.

  On the other side of the fence surrounding the élite was an equally famous and almost as rich family, the Vanderbilts. The man who had made them wealthy was still very much alive, the tough, combative, coarse-tongued Cornelius (‘Commodore’) Vanderbilt, a man who would never have been welcomed in the polite society that he himself scorned. The Commodore’s eldest son, Cornelius Vanderbilt II and his wife, the icy Alice, had never managed to crash the barricades. It took another daughter-in-law, Alva, married to a younger son, William Kissam (‘Willie K’) Vanderbilt, to do so.

  She did this with a ground-breaking ball, talked of for years afterwards, ostensibly given in honour of her best friend Consuelo (née Yznaga), a ‘buccaneer’ who had married the Duke of Manchester’s heir, Viscount Mandeville. In England Consuelo Mandeville became a close friend of the Prince of Wales.

  By the time the next generation of Vanderbilts came along things were a little – but not much – easier. Alva had destined her daughter Consuelo from birth to an upward marriage and when Consuelo was seventeen Alva settled (successfully) on the Duke of Marlborough. When Alva herself had been ostracised by New York society after divorcing Willie K, Consuelo’s marriage secured Alva’s re-entry: as the mother-in-law of a duke she was persona grata once more.

  Consuelo’s first cousin Cornelius (‘Neily’) Vanderbilt III, son of Alice and Cornelius Vanderbilt II, did not have the same success when he made a marriage of which his parents disapproved. He was cut off from the Vanderbilt clan when he married Grace Wilson, whom they thought an adventuress. Nevertheless, the cool and clever Grace managed to succeed Mrs Astor as the ruler of society.

  Grace herself was the youngest of the ‘marrying Wilsons’, so known because all five of the siblings made matches that lifted them effortlessly upwards. They were the children of the handsome, dashing Richard Thornton Wilson, entrepreneur and Civil War profiteer and his wife Melissa. The eldest, May, married Ogden Goelet,2 scion of a rich ‘old New York’ family; their daughter, also known as May, carried on the family tradition by marrying the Duke of Roxburghe. Orme Wilson, eldest of the two sons, achieved a major coup not only by marrying Carrie Astor, daughter of the Mrs Astor, in the teeth of her disapproval, but by winning her and the rest of the Astor family round. The next daughter, Belle, married Michael Herbert, the fourth son of Lord Herbert, and settled happily into English aristocratic society, while the younger boy, Richard, married into a rich Boston family.

  Perhaps the ‘best’ marriage of all was made by Mary Leiter, daughter of Mary Theresa and Joseph Levi Leiter, of Marshall Field fame, who married George Curzon, to become a marchioness and Vicereine of India, where her sister Marguerite (‘Daisy’) met her own future husband, the Earl of Suffolk.

  Others who figure in my account of those Gilded Age days are Mrs Paran Stevens, the pushy wife of hotelier Paran Stevens, and their daughter Minnie, taken round Europe to find a titled husband before marrying Arthur Paget, a close friend of the Prince of Wales. Mrs Stevens’s son Harry was engaged to Edith Wharton, then Edith Jones, before Mrs Paran Stevens succeeded in bringing the romance to a halt so that she could continue to benefit from her son’s trust.

  Adèle Beach Grant was an American heiress who became Countess of Essex after a broken engagement to another peer, while Maud Burke, from San Francisco, married Sir Bache Cunard – later calling herself Emerald Cunard – and revolutionised the face of British opera. Mr and Mrs Bradley Martin migrated to Britain, marrying off their daughter Cornelia at only sixteen to the Earl of Craven, while Tennessee Claflin’s shady antecedents did not prevent her from becoming the wife of baronet Sir Francis Cook. Fanny Work, Alice Thaw and Anna Murphy, who married respectively the Hon. James Burke Roche, the Earl of Yarmouth and Sir Charles Wolseley, were examples of marriages where the exchange of title for fortune brought neither partner happiness.

  Other American notables were the social leader Mamie Stuyvesant Fish, a plain woman, almost illiterate, with a raucous laugh but witty, lively, irreverent and gay, the heiress Elizabeth Drexel, from an ‘old New York’ family and her husband Harry Lehr, social pet and jester, notably to Mamie Stuyvesant Fish.

  The story of the beautiful Virginia Bonynge, later Lady Deerhurst and stepdaughter of Charles Bonynge and his wife Rodie Daniel, and the battles between Charles Bonynge and the ‘Bonanza King’, John Mackay and his wife, were avidly discussed in drawing rooms on both sides of the Atlantic.

  Finally, commenting on all that was going on, and, thanks to its immense network of informers, an unrivalled source of information to the members of that society (and to me as well), was the witty, scurrilous and uninhibited magazine Town Topics.

  CHAPTER 1

  Where They Came From

  The year was 1873 and the Gilded Age was roaring into life. New York seemed to be growing by the minute, new and ever more splendid buildings rising in the centre with ramshackle housing filled by the tide of immigrants spreading outwards. (One tenement in Mulberry Street, home to eighty people, half of whom were children, saturated with filth and vermin, strewn with garbage, was typical. Here raged typhus, diphtheria and smallpox – only nine years earlier, smallpox alone had killed more than 800 New Yorkers.)

  In a display of the untrammelled wealth1 now pouring into the city, gorgeously dressed women, their huge hats wreathed with flowers and feathers kept in place by jewelled hatpins, strolled down Fifth Avenue in the first of the Easter Parades after attending a service in one of the city’s fashionable churches, before returning to the houses past which they sauntered. Great palaces of marble, stone and brick, domed, crenellated, with balconies, spires, canopies, were springing up all around, some so huge that they took up a whole block, as did the largest New York town house ever built, that of Cornelius Vanderbilt II on the corner of Fifth Avenue and 57th Street.

  As the green shoots of spring appeared, so did the inhabitants of these Fifth Avenue palaces. Between four and five in the afternoon, women put on their smartest dresses and drove in carriages along Fifth Avenue, sometimes stopping for a walk in Central Park. On the first Saturday in May the Coaching Club held its annual parade. Coaches lined up at the meeting place, the Brunswick Hotel (diagonally opposite Delmonico’s) until given the starting signal by the president of the Club, women in their best dresses and most beautiful hats, men in their Coaching Club livery of check suits with black coats, tan aprons and red and white buttonholes. Even the horses wore bouquets, attached to their throat-straps.

  In the winter there was sleighing and ‘everyone’ would drive in horse-drawn sleighs in Central Park, Mrs Cornelius Vanderbilt’s sleigh a dark red, with dark red liveries for coachman and footman, dark red plumes and red and gilt tassels.

  The air was full of noise, from the clashing of horses’ shoes on the cobbles to ships’ sirens, the postman’s whistle and the explosive no
ise of one of the countless loose-fitting iron manhole covers as a carriage wheel passed over it. Although rubbish disposal had become a problem and manure, dried to a powder, blew into open windows and the faces of passers-by (the rich, who could afford to transport it, got rid of the manure in their stables by donating it to the city’s parks and gardens), there was nothing like the sooty pollution of London.

  Gone were the days just over a decade earlier when Central Park was full of Irish squatters, goats, pigs and dogs with them, and piles of rubbish – everything from tin cans to old hoop skirts – who had come to America after the potato famine had struck Ireland. With no hope at home, dying in the fields, the villages and the mountains, millions of Irish2 had emigrated to America – with a good few speaking only Irish. Many of them were women, young and unmarried, for whom domestic labour was a way out of penury, as well as providing room and board. They were a prime source of servants for the rich of America, whose countrymen and women in general scorned the idea of working as a servant to someone to whom their Constitution declared them equal.

  Now the poor had been pushed out of sight and the rich were busy spending their new wealth. That year saw a banquet so extravagant that it made even New Yorkers gasp: its cost was estimated at $3,0003 a guest. The host, Edward Luckmeyer, was a rich importer/exporter who had decided to blow a rebate he had received from the government on a single evening.

  Down the centre of the table, in a thirty-foot lake surrounded by violet-bordered brooks, grassy glades and lush plants, glided four swans. Around it, a mesh of gold wire from the city’s most illustrious jeweller, Tiffany, stretched to the ceiling to prevent their escape. Inside, over the lake, hung golden cages holding songbirds. The only sour note was caused by the swans (borrowed from Prospect Park), which spent most of the evening either fighting or mating.

  It was held at Delmonico’s,4 the most famous of New York’s temples to extravagance. ‘Everyone’ went to Delmonico’s. Lunching there daily was Mayor Oakey Hall, who might appear in an embroidered waistcoat under a green frock coat with pure gold coins for buttons; Colonel William Mann, proprietor of the society magazine Town Topics and anonymous author of ‘The Saunterer’, the magazine’s dreaded, witty, malicious gossip column; and the glamorous actress Lillian Russell and her paramour ‘Diamond Jim’ Brady, while the most respectable and exclusive of New York’s Gilded Age balls took place regularly in its red and gold ballroom.

  Not all New York approved of the rash of new palaces – or new people. ‘I wish the Vanderbilts didn’t retard culture so thoroughly,’ sighed Edith Newbold Jones (later the novelist Edith Wharton), from an ‘old New York’ family. ‘They are entrenched in a sort of thermopylae of bad taste from which apparently no forces on earth can dislodge them.’ (She was not much kinder about the brownstone houses in which most of the families like hers lived, saying they made the city look as if it had been coated in cold chocolate sauce.)

  The words ‘nouveau riche’ began to be flung about and as Blanche Oelrichs, another ‘old’ New Yorker, noticed, her parents and their friends were constantly asking, in plaintive bewilderment, ‘Who is he?’ or Who is she?’ of these wealthy incomers from unknown backgrounds. For in the grandest houses lived the ever-growing band of the city’s millionaires and their wives – the would-be upper echelon of the greatest city in America. Would-be’ is the right adjective: their struggle to achieve social success was long, hard, bitterly fought and often unsuccessful. Money, it seemed, did not always talk.

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  The then upper echelon of New York society consisted of the families who had lived there for generations. They were mainly of Dutch descent – the name Knickerbockers came from the knee-length trousers worn by these early settlers. They had the Dutch virtue of thrift: their solidly based fortunes were mainly in banking and large trading firms or amassed as lawyers, though increasingly real estate played a part.

  The leader of this élite group was Mrs William Backhouse Astor, whose husband’s great fortune had been founded a good fifty years earlier, thus classifying the Astors as ‘old money’. William was a man dedicated to pleasure – horses, drink, yachting and womanising (the last two often together). His wife Caroline (‘Lina’) Astor was a descendant of one of the original Dutch settlers; née Schermerhorn, she came from an old-established shipping family and she was so determined that she and her husband remained socially impeccable that she tried hard to ensure that his middle name disappeared into oblivion (‘backhouse’ was one term for a privy).

  She was tallish, dark-haired and olive-skinned, plump and imposing, and had those essentials for leadership, a commanding personality coupled with an ability to keep her thoughts and feelings hidden. Her single-minded determination to remain at the pinnacle of society was helped by the fact that her husband was seldom around.

  Her ‘subjects’ lived in solid, unpretentious and heavily curtained brownstone houses between Washington Square and Gramercy Park, with plumply upholstered rosewood furniture and thickly patterned wallpaper; they guarded their privacy and had set ideas about what was ‘done’ and what was ‘not done’, such as appearing in public when visibly pregnant. ‘We dined at Bessie Sands the night before New Years with Gen’l & Mrs Barton & with Mrs Pellow – but it is my last appearance in public,’ wrote one of this caste, the pregnant Anna Robinson, to her sister Pauline du Pont in January 1880. ‘I enjoyed it very much, but I think it must be so disagreeable to other people. Minnie Jones5 wanted us to dine there next, but I told her to ask Beverly without me & then he would come.’

  The people they entertained to their plain dinners, eaten at around 7.00 p.m., were each other; after dinner, there were often evening calls, perhaps by some suitable young man interested in the daughter of the house. The idea of a social season, of grand balls in the ballrooms of private houses, of showy, ornate carriages, of driving out to see and be seen, would have produced baffled stares.

  Once married, they dressed in dark colours. ‘I send you a sample of my dinner dress – it is made of gray silk,’ wrote Anna Robinson to her sister, adding, ‘did I tell you of my new bonnet? It is jet with two black ostrich tips and a bunch of pink roses on the side & black velvet strings.’ Even if the richer among them ordered Paris dresses, these lay unworn in the trunks in which they had been sent over for a year or so – it would not do for a Knickerbocker lady to be up-to-the-minute fashionable – and were usually of sober colours. ‘I took my velvet jacket from its repose & my black silk dress & appeared in them,’ wrote Anna Robinson. ‘I don’t think they are more old-fashioned than two years ago.’

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  After the American Civil War ended in 1865, huge fortunes began to be made, in steel mills, steam engines, oil, mines, railroads, the grain from the prairies and cattle from the west, preserved meats to feed soldiers, the installation of the telegraph, armaments and real estate. And for those with social aspirations – which meant most of the wives of these men – there was only one place to be: New York. It was quite true that the seat of government was Washington, from which emanated federal laws, but few of the newly rich were interested in politics – in any case, they were too busy making money – and their wives certainly were not. For them, New York was the most exciting and cosmopolitan city in America; and with their millionaire husbands, whose fortunes were growing daily, allowing them free spending on whatever they liked, surely all doors would be open to them?

  They soon found that this was not so. If Mrs Astor did not know you, no invitation would ever come your way. Sometimes a son would slip in: an enormously rich young man could perhaps be a husband for one of the plainer or less choosy among the Knickerbocker girls, helped by the fact that there was a perennial shortage of men in New York. ‘Poor Victorine has had a dreadful time about the ball tomorrow night,’ wrote Anna Robinson. ‘It appears it was arranged (without contacting her) that she should take Emily Lesser, Minnie Dale, Clara Elliot & Marie Gothout … Mr Mane, who is head & front of it, flattered himself that all
the ladies are buying new dresses for it … Of course it will be a great sight but I am afraid apart from that it will be pretty sad not to know a man.’

  Huge fortunes did not always help towards social inclusion. Many of the wealthiest families, such as the Rockefellers, Carnegies and Goulds, had to remain outside the palisades. If Mrs Astor did not want to know you, she did not know you.

  One such family, the Stewarts, went as far as building a mansion opposite that of Mrs Astor so that she could not avoid seeing them. What perhaps they did not realise was that she so guarded the exclusiveness on which her myth was founded that she would not even go near her own windows lest the crowds that thronged Fifth Avenue hoping to catch a glimpse of the rich and famous should see her.

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  Yet at that very moment, as the Gilded Age began, a new social format was being created that would give shape and structure to the fashionable world for the next few decades – and launch those daughters of the newly rich, the real-life ‘buccaneers’, across the Atlantic. At the heart of the stratagem designed to create what would become known variously as ‘Society’ and the ‘Four Hundred’ was one man, a Southerner named Ward McAllister.

  As a young man McAllister had been remarkably handsome. At the time he began his remodelling of New York social life, his brown hair was receding and beginning to go grey. His eyes were blue and kindly, his forehead high, his nose aquiline, his chin firm. He was not tall – he was about 5ft 9ins – but he was square-shouldered and stood straight, so that his clothes hung well. He dressed conservatively, with a tall hat and cutaway coat of dark material. Even in an age of social striving, he was known as a snob.